Wear Plus Size With Confidence

Wear Plus Size With Confidence: Advice on Building a Body of Confidence

By the time you realize you’ve lost your body confidence, you feel like it will be impossible to get back. However, if you commit to consciously making these five changes, you'll regain what was yours all along. Consider this couples therapy for you and that woman in the mirror.

Body Confidence is Not Reserved for Plus Sizes

At age 21, fate put things into perspective for me in a Las Vegas restroom when a certain model I'd idolized throughout my high school years washed her hands at the sink next to mine. Heart-stopping shock flooded over me as I witnessed her lean in and tear herself down; crow's feet, fine lines, worry wrinkles, dark circles, bags under her eyes, a double chin, saggy neck, flabby underarms, and a poochy tummy. As she dried her hands and walked out, I let reality wash over me. Sadly, when she looked in the mirror, she didn't see anything gorgeous. That was the day the game changed for me. Magically, my idol and I were somehow on the same playing field, and our team consisted of every woman who'd ever paused to gaze at her reflection.

Put Me In, Coach!

Time to take matters into your own hands. Changing your style can drastically affect the way you feel about your body, even if your body itself hasn't significantly changed. Need proof? If you've spent the last decade in yoga pants, tees, and baby goo, slip into a Ponte Sheath Dress and prepare for your jaw to drop.

A Good Defense Wins Games

This one doesn't happen overnight. But when you focus your energy on elevating your inner beauty, you'll build the strength to defend yourself from the negativity that tries to cloud your reflection. Grant permission to see yourself through the eyes of the ones who love you most, then dress the part. Buy clothes that fit you now. Invest in a tailor for a few of your most special pieces. Upgrade your sweater collection to include at least one cashmere sweater. You should be seen, not hidden. Over time, your eyewear will transition from blinders to rose-colored glasses.

Throwback Jersey

Can you think of a time when you felt absolutely stunning? I recently witnessed this phenomenon in my daughter. Her hair had taken so long to grow in that she got her first haircut when she was four years old, and even then, it was just a trim. However, to her, it was much more than “just a trim.” For about a month straight, she knew without a doubt she was truly fabulous! I secretly watched her as she shook her locks, flipped her hair, twirled it around her tiny fingers, and lit up when anyone would ask, “Did you get your haircut?” Challenge yourself to rediscover the reflection that you saw before you gave in to the doubt.

A great pair of women’s jeans is out there, waiting for you to discover them. Balance your hourglass shape with a pair of bootcut jeans, a white button-down shirt, and a simple women’s fleece jacket or a women’s winter vest. Look for fabrics with stretch and timeless cuts for starters. They’re classic for a reason.

Score a Home Run

Existing in an aesthetically-pleasing environment changes the way you process beauty. If you usually get ready to face the day in your bedroom or master bath, transition from drab to dreamy by simply upgrading your bedding and accent pieces. Set the mood with a little aromatherapy. The right diffuser or scented candle harnesses the power to allow you to start your day with a more positive state of mind.

Be a Part of The Team

“No man is an island” is a phrase virtually everyone has heard more than once. But what exactly does this mean? Essentially, recognize that as human beings, we crave and need human connection. We need to surround ourselves with people who uplift us. Find your tribe. Align yourself with people who value you, your beauty, and everything you have to offer. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people who celebrate your beauty and whose beauty you can celebrate too! Don’t feed into toxicity or negative comments, and don’t give anyone who can’t give you the time of day.

Most Importantly, Enjoy Your Life

Life is meant to be lived! If you are struggling with confidence or body image issues, be gentle with yourself. The process of recognizing your worth is a long one for many people, regardless of age, gender, class, or body type. Take small steps, challenge yourself to do things you might not normally do or feel too afraid to do. Even better, take on life's challenges and try new things with a support system or a trusted buddy. With persistence, you will find yourself better able to enjoy the beautiful things in life with greater confidence.

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