When was the last time you thought about what makes you look great and feel fabulous in your own skin? We live in a society where we constantly compare ourselves to preconceived notions of beauty. How silly is that? A unique individual is always better than some cookie-cutter definition.
Let’s start with your favorite features. Maybe they’re your beautiful eyes, lustrous hair, clear skin, or lovely voice. Whatever they are, play them up. Maybe a cashmere cardigan emphasizes your long legs or the right belt complements your curves. No one has the exact same assets that you do. Don’t try to fit into a box of what is supposed to be pretty or fashionable. That is just limiting.
One of the best ways to really express your personal style is through color. What are the colors that are most flattering on you? We have all had that experience of trying on just the right color and being amazed at how great we look in it. Take a picture of it and wear more of that!
If you aren’t sure what colors work for you, do a little research. Check out color analysis on the internet or at your local bookstore. Ask your friends what colors bring out your eyes, your skin or look great with your hair. Some women go clothing shopping (either online or in a brick-and-mortar store) with fabric samples in hand or digital fabric swatches on their phones. This can be helpful with fluorescent in-store lighting that can distort how colors will look in other environments.
What necklines are most flattering on you? Maybe ¾-sleeve tops look great. Do you have a favorite women’s white blouse? What style and length of skirt do you love? What cut of jeans? The right cut of women’s jeans is like having your own superpower. They can make you look and feel fabulous. If you’re unsure what is best for you, try on different options and read up on what is likely to be most flattering to your body shape.
If it’s been a while since you thought about what you truly like instead of just pulling the same clothes out of your closet, maybe it’s time for a reset. Start by making sure that your clothes fit. Take your measurements. Do your current clothes fit your current curves? Remember, size is just a number. What’s important is having clothes that make you feel good in your own skin.
It’s funny how easy it is to forget texture when we shop for clothes. We think about how garments will look on us, and we forget about how they will feel. Don’t fall into this trap. Dressing well is about feeling good (and texture can add visual interest, too).
Play with different “weights” of fabrics and textures. Go for fun fabrics—soft womens tunic sweaters in cashmere, or maybe boiled wool for a more structured look. Keep leather jackets, shoes, and handbags in mind, too. Mix in some suede or fringe for variety. Enjoy textures like ultra-soft flannel, cool cotton, or perhaps silk. Synthetics have their place in every wardrobe, but natural fabrics just feel better next to your skin.
Jewelry is another way to make a personal statement, whether you love your grandmother’s watch or that cool item you picked up at a craft fair. Do you own jewelry that makes you happy when you wear it? Maybe it’s that fun bracelet that you bought on vacation but hardly ever wear, or those go-to earrings and pendant that you can wear with every outfit. Whatever it is, enjoy it. There is no rule about how often you can repeat your favorite things, and it’s silly to leave jewelry sitting in a box instead of on you. If little or no jewelry at all is your personal style, embrace that!
Do you have a favorite perfume, body lotion, or essential oil? Incorporate this into your daily routine. For a restful and luxurious nighttime routine, sprinkle a couple of drops of lavender oil on your pillow at night. If you would like to wear perfume and don’t know what you should buy, go to a department store, and try out different scents. When you find a good candidate for your signature scent, buy a travel size so you can “test drive” it for a couple of weeks before you “invest” in the entire line of products.
Really expressing your personal style is about wearing what you enjoy and what looks and feels great on you. It has nothing to do with what your friend, sister, or someone on social media is wearing. This time, it’s all about you. Enjoy!