’Tis the season, right? If watching your holiday invites pile up has you coming down with a bad case of party anxiety, then we've got the remedy. Consider this a house call. This prescription will have you putting your best foot forward as you walk confidently through those holly-lined doorways. Just take two of these and call us in the morning.
Body language accounts for 55% of communication. Another 38% of communication is made up of the tone you use. That's 93%! Only 7% of communication is based on what we actually say, yet the fear of saying the wrong thing is one of the main causes of anxiety during the holidays. Make everyone believe that body language is your native tongue by wearing an outfit that naturally encourages good posture. A beautiful cashmere sweater has that effect on most women. Makes you want to stand a little taller, knowing you’re wearing the world’s finest. Doesn’t matter what you pair with it – jeans, velvet pants, a skirt and heels…Now close your eyes. Allow your muscles to relax. Think of something pleasant as you begin to walk in. Shoulders back. Head up. Make eye contact, and you're golden.
The way in which you enter a holiday gathering will depend upon what type of party you are heading into. Dancing your way through your best friend's foyer? No harm done. However, you may want to avoid the fancy footwork as you make your way to your seat at the candlelight concert. Similarly, keep occasion appropriateness in mind when choosing an outfit. Or simply keep a sweater dress on hand. It’s your secret to always looking perfectly dressed in seconds.
“You only get one chance to make a good first impression.” Research proves most people decide how they feel about you within the first ten seconds. Taking your party clothes for a test run ensures wearing it won’t cause you to fidget. Some would swear ponté sheath dresses, with their flatters-everyone fit and pockets, were designed precisely for that reason.
There will be times, plenty of them, when you trip your way into a room, snag your heel on a step, or preform some other less than graceful party foul. They never fail to take place at the absolute worst moment possible when you feel as though all eyes are on you. That's why you need to start viewing proper footwear as party insurance. The slight heel and rubber outsole of comfy pair of ankle boots may prove to be your saving grace. However, if at some point you face a party gaffe, simply smile and brush it off. If you don't dwell on it, no one else will either.
Someone has to be last, but it shouldn't always be you. Managing your time proves that you value your host's time. When it comes to making a good entrance, the best course of action is to arrive early enough to welcome the guests arriving after you. This approach requires wearing an outfit that allows you to feel effortlessly confident right now. Simply find the party version of your perfect outfit. Love a twinset and jeans? Upgrade to a cashmere sweater set and sparkle jeans. Prefer a tunic and leggings above all else? Try velvet leggings and a tunic sweater. Wear your perfect little black dress with red shoes or something with sparkle. It’s a party and you’re now the life of it. If your social style is slightly less outgoing, you can still show your hosts how much you appreciate the invite by lending a hand. Refill buffet items or tidy up a bit so they have a lighter load when the party winds down.
When in doubt, keep in mind you were invited. It’s an invitation to share time with the best people. Your host won’t care if you wallflower your way in without anyone noticing or if you hire a DJ to play your personal theme music as you glide through the party on a palanquin. Just show up.