It's hard to remember a time when we didn't know how to get dressed, but learning where to put your head, arms and legs takes some time. Many kids will want to start dressing themselves around age 2, but most will need help until they're at least 3. Here are some tips to help avoid confrontation, encourage independence, and set limits: 
 

• Have your toddler "help" you in the beginning by saying things like, "Let's put your hands up real high so Mommy can get your shirt on!"
   

• Tantrums are common as your toddler is just beginning to assert himself. Don't lose hope. Experts recommend giving them choices about how to get dressed, not whether to get dressed. For example, saying, "It's time to go now; we have to leave. Would you like to dress yourself this morning or would you like me to help you get dressed?" If your child still is not able to get dressed, dress him yourself and say, "Maybe next time you'll be able to do this all by yourself!"
   

• Have fun. Play peekaboo. When dressing your young child, say, "Where's your hand? Oh there it is! It just came out of your sleeve!"

• Give your child a choice of 2 or 3 different outfits. She'll be more eager to get dressed if she has a say in what she wears. 

• Communicate with your kids and be sensitive to what they want. If it's convenient (and possible), get duplicates of their most favorite sweatpants or T-shirt. That way one will always be clean - and it smoothes logistical problems ahead of time!